Modern Day Etiquette Tips for Funeral Clothing

By: Anderson Funeral Home
Friday, September 16, 2016

Modern Day Etiquette Tips for Funeral Clothing

One of the most common questions people have about funerals is “what do I wear?” Should people dress up and wear black according to tradition, or are jeans appropriate? Have the traditions evolved over time, and are there modern day tips for funeral clothing?

Do I Still Have to Wear Black?

Generally speaking, black is still the proper attire for funeral clothing. However, if you are not related to the deceased, you can wear navy blue or dark grey as well. It is not necessary to go out and buy a black suit or dress if you don’t already have one. However, you should still wear something subdued and conservative.

Does the Clothing Need to be Formal?

As a way of honoring the deceased, you should consider wearing your best and most conservative clothing. A dark dress or a suit is appropriate. Clothing should be clean, neat, and pressed. Men can wear a dark jacket and slacks with dark shoes and a white or plain button up shirt. Women can wear a pantsuit or a dress. Normally, jeans or casual clothing to a funeral is not common.

What about Shoes?

Again, shoes should be conservative. Keep in mind that you may be heading to the cemetery after funeral services. Women may not want to wear high heels if they are going to be walking on grass.

Additional Tips and Considerations

Lean toward modesty. Bare shoulders, backs, and short dresses generally are not a good idea – remember that a funeral is to honor the deceased.

Keep jewelry subdued, and stick to the basics. A wedding or engagement ring, watch, tie clip, or a small necklace is okay. If you are not sure, then don’t wear it.

Funerals can be long, so make sure that you are comfortable in whatever you wear. You will likely be sitting and standing for several hours, so if you are uncomfortable, it can impact your experience.

Generally speaking, clothing etiquette for funerals has not changed much over the years.  Today both men and women commonly wear dark, professional, and conservative clothing to honor and remember the deceased.

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